Miscommunication Over Peking Duck Leads To Petty Couple's Spat At Restaurant

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Jul 11, 2022 5:00 PM EDT

Couples are notoriously known for fighting over what they're going to eat next. They eat together often, and they both need to be in the mood for the same thing in order to reach a compromise. As you can imagine, choosing different recipes and restaurants every night with another person can become an exhausting ordeal. For new couples struggling to meet in the middle about their food preferences, we recommend that they alternate between who gets to choose depending on the night. Even with a fair deal like this one, miscommunication can still arise over food. In today's 'Am I the A$$hole?' post, OP told us about how he and his boyfriend finished exams recently and went on an extended weekend trip to celebrate. OP's boyfriend asked if he wanted to get peking duck at a restaurant, and OP said yes without realizing that meant they would be ordering the duck dish in advance. Scroll down for the petty argument that came out of this minor misunderstanding. 

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    Font - Posted by u/Resident Most1196 2 days ago AITA for refusing to eat a dish my boyfriend preordered at a restaurant?
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    We need more context into this story before making a judgment call. 

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    Font - I feel like this is stupid, but there's been a lot of drama because of this so I just wanna get some clarity on if I'm the asshole or not. My boyfriend and I (both 22M) are currently on an extended weekend trip, to celebrate finishing our exams yesterday and just unwind a bit. When we made plans a few weeks ago he excitedly told me that he knew a great restaurant for peking duck and asked if I wanted him to make a reservation there. I said sure, not thinking anything of it and pretty much
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    Here's where the miscommunication started. 

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    Font - I don't wanna share too much about where we live and where we went, but basically we left immediately after our morning exams and got on a train that took about 6 hours. When we got to the hotel we unpacked and after just chilling for half an hour he told me we had to get ready and then go quickly to not miss our reservation at 7pm. It was a bit hectic, but we arrived in time.
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    Font - When we sat down I looked at the menu and asked what he was thinking of getting. He looked at me confused and said "Well the duck obviously? That's why we're here, but we can order some appetisers if you're very hungry." I told him "Yeah maybe some dim sum and then I was thinking of having the spicy noodles." He then said "What do you mean? We're both having the duck?" To which I told him I wasn't really feeling the duck but he could go ahead and order it himself. He got kinda snappy with
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    Font - It's a whole duck and he wasn't gonna be able to eat all of it. I asked if he could get something else and he said no, he already agreed to pay for it by preordering, he also asked me to just get the duck so it wouldn't be wasted. I told him I'm sorry and that I didn't know that, but that I didn't wanna eat the duck. He then got really mad, saying that he explicitly asked me if I wanted to do this, and that if I didn't he wouldn't have made this reservation and spent 80 euro on a duck I w
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    Font - For the rest of the dinner he pretty much gave me a cold shoulder and now he's still not really talking to me. AITA?
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    Font - Chelular07 2 days ago Asshole Aficionado [19] I am leaning towards NAH because this sounds like a simple misunderstanding. Y'all should just agree that in the future you both need to be a little more explicit. He thought you wanted the duck because it is a signature dish and you didn't know he ordered when he made the reservation or else you would have corrected him. On top of that you both are just getting done with exams and were on a train for 6 hrs. That tends to make people a little
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    Font - Princ3ssP3n3lop3. 2 days ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] Soft YTA. BF should have been more clear about the restaurant requirements and refusing to talk to you is juvenile. However, once you knew that he had already ordered the duck and it couldn't be canceled you should have just gotten an appetizer and eaten the duck unless you don't eat duck for some moral or dietary reasons (which BF should have known). I have eaten a lot of stuff that I wasn't in the mood for because my partner was trying
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    Human body - throwwaway0677 2 days ago Personally, I would've just eaten the duck. I don't think you're an asshole for not doing so, but unless you actively dislike duck, it seems like it's not really worth the trouble.
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    Font - DogRescueLady 2 days ago Asshole Aficionado [17] I'm going to go with YTA on this. Not because you didn't know about Peking duck, that was just a miscommunication between the two of you, but because you then turned it into a thing. You should have just eaten the duck. That's what we do for people we care about. You turned it into some kind of prideful "you aren't the boss of me" kind of thing and that shouldn't have happened. He was excited about the duck. You should have just done that f
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    Rectangle - [deleted] 2 days ago NTA - also I have never had to pre order Peking duck ever! and never had to get a whole duck either, are they actually going to Peking to get it?
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    Font - RideTheWindForever. 1 day ago Partassipant [4] My Dad gave a speech at the engagement party for myself and my husband. He said "The most important thing in a relationship is communication. Now, that sounds easy, but it's actually the hardest thing in the world. You have to learn what you both mean by what you say, what you don't say, and everything in between. Learn how to communicate and work on it every day! Without it, you'll never make it."
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